BullyingBullying affects ALL of our children — those who bully, those who are victimized, and those who are witnesses or assistants to interpersonal violence. We can and must reduce this age-old problem. For information on actions parents can take to eliminate bullying or if their child has been involved in bullying: http://www.education.com/topic/school-bullying-teasing. What do I do if I suspect that my child is being bullied?
What are parents to do if their child tells them that he is being bullied?
One of the most important things that a parent can do in this situation is to talk with your child. Tell your child that you are concerned and that you’d like to help. Here are some questions that can get the discussion going:
Sometimes, more subtle questions are needed:
It is also important that parents talk with staff at school. Share your concerns about your child and ask the teacher such questions as:
If your child is bullied Adapted from The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, by Barbara Coloroso (Collins Living ) DO’S:
Tell your child, “I hear you; I am here for you; I believe you; you are not alone in this.” Tell your child, “It is not your fault.” Tell your child, “There are things you can do.” Report the bullying to school personnel.
DON’TS:
Don’t minimalize, rationalize or explain away the bully’s behavior. Don’t solve the problem for your child. Don’t tell your child to avoid the bully. Don’t tell your child to fight back. Don’t confront the bully or the bully’s parents alone.
Tips for kids who are bullied IZZY KALMAN OFFERS these suggestions to stem the tide of bullying. http://www.bullies2buddies.com/
San Diego Unified School District Bullying, Harassment, and Intimidation Prohibition Policy March 2011
In its commitment to providing all students and staff with a safe learning environment where everyone is treated with respect and no one is physically or emotionally harmed, the Board of Education will not tolerate any student or staff member being bullied (including cyber-bullying), harassed, or intimidated in any form at school or school-related events, (including off-campus events, school-sponsored activities, school buses, any event related to school business), or outside of school hours with the intention to be carried out during any of the above.
Such acts include those that are reasonably perceived as being motivated either by an actual or perceived attribute that includes but is not limited to race, religion, creed, color, marital status, parental status, veteran status, sex, sexual orientation, gender expression or identity, ancestry, national origin, ethnic group identification, age, mental or physical disability or any other distinguishing characteristic.
The district further prohibits the inciting, aiding, coercing or directing of others to commit acts of bullying or cyber-bullying, harassment or intimidation. Any staff member that observes, overhears or otherwise witnesses bullying (including cyber-bullying), harassment, or intimidation, or to whom such actions have been reported must take prompt and appropriate action to stop the behavior and to prevent its reoccurrence as detailed in the applicable Administrative Procedure. Students who observe, overhear, or otherwise witness such actions must, and parents/ district visitors are encouraged to report the behaviors to a staff member. At each school, the principal or principal’s designee is responsible for receiving and promptly investigating complaints alleging violations of this policy. Any form of retaliation in response to a report of such acts is prohibited. |
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